What I love about documentaries is that you never know what someone will learn from the life and experiences of other people; that everyone will take away something different from the story that you’re telling.
Tonight I learned something from an unlikely place…a cooking show or, what I thought was a cooking show when I pressed play on Netflix.
Last week I shared my uncertainty about committing myself to a career path that would lead me to working for the ACLU. For all the soul-searching I’ve done and all the advice that I sought, I ended up finding the answer on Chef’s Table.
In the second episode of Chef’s Table, Dan Barber quoted Wes Jackson, “If your life’s work can be accomplished in your lifetime, you’re not thinking big enough.”
So, for all the questions I had about the ACLU as a career path, I get it now.
At the same time, I got some advice from a Facebook friend who helped me to see that, not all of life has to happen right now. There will be other chapters. Chapters in which my role as mommy will slowly diminish as my child grows up.
By the time I started watching Chef’s Table I had already pretty much decided that right now wasn’t the time for me to take up activism but, with that one quote, I finally understood how people take on the kind of work done by the ACLU. Just having that rudimentary understanding would have saved me a lot of heartache several weeks ago.
The good news is I’ve figured out what I can’t do right now. The bad news is, I still have to figure out what I want to do next.
I struggle with finding direction because I have written exactly three non-academic pieces since I went to school to learn how to write. In my feature writing course that I was so excited for, I found myself trudging through the writing. I got an ‘A’ but I never really felt settled into the pieces.
When I do write now, I don’t get the feedback that I used to when I didn’t know what the hell I was doing; when my writing didn’t follow any rules because, I didn’t know there were any rules.
In fact, I get pretty much nothing back from it or out of it.
That’s been something I haven’t wanted to put words to because, what a waste it all was, right?
Then, on a show about people’s passion for cooking, comes the answer to that too. Chef Francis Mallmann talks about losing himself at the beginning of his career in the pursuit of status, prestige and accolades.
He says, “I wasn’t doing the right thing, I was just trying to copy exactly everything I had learned. And I think that happens in every craft in life.
You’re young, you have a master, you want to emulate him, do what he does. But at some point in life you have to turn around and say, ‘I have to find my own way, my own language’.”
What a relief!!! It’s normal!
He goes on to say, “You don’t grow on a secure path. In order to grow and improve, you have to be there a bit, at the edge of uncertainty.”
And so, I’m letting go. I shall stand here at the edge of uncertainty allowing life to happen to me but, in a different way than I did before. I won’t be a passive bystander hoping to go unnoticed, hoping the people in charge will allow me to have a say in the life that I wish to have.
Instead, I’ll stand here, at the edge, ready to jump when I see the opportunity.